We needed this conference just like any other married couple. The thing we struggle with most is communication… Years ago we let the non-communication continue and continue, and we found ourselves in such a hard place. That journey was tough, but as much as it hurt, it was a lesson we needed. As we signed up for this conference I knew we could always learn better ways to connect and create a great relationship, because at the end of the day this is one thing we agree on 100%, we want a great marriage. This is a goal for us.Read More
There is something about knowing you have more time than the average date night to connect. Quoting my husband here: "Time away together is to recharge your marriage and date nights are maintenance on your marriage."Read More
Shell: Like the other day, we had this argument, and it kept snowballing and snowballing. And then told her, we love each other let's just give-in. We have discussed that if fights keep going, we have to come back to remind ourselves that love each other and no one is going anywhere.
Monica: But the amount of times you have to do that in a marriage is surprising.Read More
“I think where he would fail, was to not ask me for more time when he got home. He needed more time to decompress, and I didn’t get it.
Where I would fail was to allow someone to dictate my mood. It was not a good thing because I would let someone else’s attitude affect my attitude.”Read More
Mari: I will say one of the things that helped our marriage and why we still like each other, is that we always made marriage a priority and raised our children to understand that there is their time with us and then there is mommy and daddy time.Read More
Ivan: "At the time it's easy to say win together, but in an argument, you're pissed at your spouse for doing what they're doing, and you're not thinking, let's fight about this as a team."Read More
“He proposed again, and we got married in 2009. We have been married for almost nine years and have two amazing little girls. I look back on this story and realize there is nothing I would change because it's lead us to where we are today.”Read More
“When Ivan and I discussed this blog post, he said to me, not everyone can do that, Lily. I do agree, but you can still be intentional with your calendar and say: OK, we can only get a sitter twice a month let me add those dates in now.”Read More
Daniel: People always say, happy wife, happy life. I would say that is true but don’t forget about your happiness and put it on the back burner. I see a lot of guys get bitter about marriage because they give up on their ambitions and their friends. You need to be happy too and hopefully that allows you both to be happy.Read More
Fred: ...the reality is you are a team that is why you work together and you should work together to try to reach the same goal. We’ve been married for nine years, we’ve had down times and good times, but at the end of the day we made vows to each other and I think, it’s worth it to really work at it.Read More
Chad: I think communication is key. You have to be open with each other. You have to be willing to say the truth and hear the things you don’t want to hear. No matter what in every relationship someone is going to do something that the other will not like and you may not want to hear it, but you have to be open to having those conversations. And be willing to say, OK I’m going to try to change that.Read More
Rick: It's important to remind your wife that she's beautiful, that your thinking about her. I still tell her she's "Hot" because in my eyes she is (this makes our kids crazy, they say, "Don't say mom's hot, that's gross!" LOL). Of course even though I think she knows it I always remind her how much I love her!Read More